We are by nature social creatures, seeking out relationships with others and a sense of belonging in the world. When our need for connectedness goes unmet fo...

If you find you are experiencing “virus information overload,” here are some tips for managing the daily deluge of news and social media.

Why Am I Emotionally Reactive to my Partner? When a couple gets caught in a negative cycle of interaction, several things can happen. First, the area of thei...

Marriage counseling is hard work. Maybe that is why less than 5% of divorcing couples come to therapy for help. What most don’t realize is that therapy can b...

Without validation, communication breaks down and leads to power struggles about whose version of reality will win out. Marie sat with her arms folded and jaw...

When counseling couples I often hear, “I love her, but…” or “He’s a good man, but….” Usually the “but” is my first clue that there may be a disruption in the...

The number one reason couples come to therapy is because of “communication issues.” Why do I put this in quotes? Because when couples speak about communicati...

Breaking patterns is not easy, especially ones that are not always cognizant to the couple. In patterns of distance though, the couple needs to enact 2 rules...

All couples have arguments, and contrary to popular belief, arguments with your spouse or partner are healthy. They help decide the direction or course of th...

In relationships there is often an unconscious goal of maximizing safety rather than just diminishing anxiety. Joseph Sandler was a psychoanalyst who coined ...

Emotion is one of the least understood, and most complex of the human systems. It wasn’t until the nineteen nineties that technology allowed us to even begin...