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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
- Sep 12
- 2 min
Is This a Good Reason for Couples Therapy?
Couples counseling is hard work. Maybe that is why less than 5% of divorcing couples come to therapy for help. What most don’t realize is...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
- Sep 8
- 3 min
If You Could (Only) See the Real Me: Validation in Couple Relationships
Without validation, communication breaks down and leads to power struggles about whose version of reality will win out. Marie sat with...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
- Aug 24
- 2 min
How to Communicate When You See Things Differently
The number one reason couples come to therapy is because of “communication issues.” Why do I put this in quotes? Because when couples...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
- Aug 15
- 3 min
Emotional Safety for Couples
In relationships, there is often an unconscious goal of maximizing safety rather than just diminishing anxiety. Joseph Sandler was a...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
- Aug 10
- 6 min
This Equation Will Save Your Relationship
Many years ago, my wife and I, and some other family members were driving to New Mexico - a favorite vacation spot frequented by many...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
- Jul 29
- 4 min
Care to Dance? I’ll take blame; you take attack. Conflict in Couples
All couples have arguments, and contrary to popular belief, arguments with your spouse or partner are healthy. They help decide the...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
- May 5
- 5 min
Why Everything You Think About Conflict with Your Partner Is Wrong
The rupture/repair cycle and why to embrace it Tanya felt exhausted. She laid her head back on her pillow and exclaimed, “We are not...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
- Nov 9, 2021
- 1 min
Healthy Couples Do These FOUR Things
What do healthy couples do that make them successful? Tom Philp, LPC & CEO, shares 4 secrets to success in your relationship with your...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
- Sep 2, 2021
- 3 min
Do the Hard Stuff: Perseverance
Tom Philp, LPC & CEO, shares his story of hiking 50 miles in 9 days in New Mexico and explains how perseverance can help achieve success...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
- Jul 28, 2021
- 2 min
Getting Past the Affair: The 3 Phases of Recovery
Are you (or someone you know) going through the heartache of an affair? There is hope for you and your partner. In this video, Tom Philp,...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
- Jul 8, 2021
- 3 min
Do We Really Need Therapy if We're Getting a Divorce??
Many of the couples we meet desire to make things work, to see their relationship restored. But some couples are getting a divorce and...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
- Jun 28, 2021
- 3 min
The Stories We Tell Ourselves
Why do we react so quickly when talking with our partner/spouse? It's the story we're telling ourselves. Tom Philp, LPC & CEO, explains...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
- May 25, 2021
- 4 min
Why is Attachment so Important?
What is "attachment" in relationships? Tom Philp, LPC, explains different types of attachment and why it's important to understand...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
- May 12, 2021
- 4 min
How to Walk Through Grief as a Couple
Experiencing grief as a couple can be challenging. Tom Philp, LPC & CEO, provides some insights on navigating through this process...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
- Apr 29, 2021
- 3 min
Sit-coms & Good Communication
Can we really get our partners to read our minds? Tom discusses good communication, healthy perspectives and a Frasier comedy sketch in...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
- Apr 14, 2021
- 3 min
The Harmony in Couples Communication
Often, the way we communicate as couples is much like music. Tom Philp, LPC & CEO of Stonebridge Couples, shares more about this very...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
- Apr 8, 2021
- 3 min
This one goes out to the men!
Tom Philp (LPC, CEO) encourages men in our latest vlog. Don't miss our new e-book! Our free gift to you! "How to Live Happily Ever After"...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
- Mar 10, 2021
- 3 min
How to Have Shared Goals as a Couple
Tom Philp (LPC, CEO) shares insights on why creating shared goals as a couple is so important. Don't miss our new e-book! Our free gift...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
- Feb 3, 2021
- 3 min
Can we both be right at the same time?
Tom Philp (LPC, CEO) shares how both perspectives in a relationship can be true. Vlog Transcript: I see this a lot in couples. Couples...
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