Deepening the Attachment Ties in Couples
When counseling couples I often hear, “I love her, but…” or “He’s a good man, but….” Usually the “but” is my first clue that there may be...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
- Jan 12
- 4 min
10 Tips for Managing Loneliness
We are by nature social creatures, seeking out relationships with others and a sense of belonging in the world. When our need for...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
- Dec 15, 2022
- 3 min
"It’s Not About That" — What Really Drives Couple Conflict
“Let’s see if we can get to the root of the problem of what is really going on here,” is something I say frequently to the couples I...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
- Dec 1, 2022
- 7 min
Trauma in Relationships
"All You Need is Love" From the moment we are born, we all share a need for love and connection. We begin to learn about trust and safety...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
- Nov 17, 2022
- 3 min
Feeling Insecure in Your Relationship? Here’s Why.
Does it feel like you struggle to be emotionally secure in your relationship? Are there times when anxiety grips you and you are overcome...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
- Nov 3, 2022
- 6 min
Healing Past Hurts (to Create Deeper Connection)
Relationships have a tremendous capacity to heal. They also have a tremendous capacity to hurt. The old adage, “Hurt people hurt people,”...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
- Oct 13, 2022
- 2 min
Why Can't I Control My Feelings?
Emotion is one of the least understood, and most complex of the human systems. It wasn’t until the 1990's that technology allowed us to...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
- Sep 22, 2022
- 6 min
Pushing Buttons and Flipping Triggers
Why Am I Emotionally Reactive to my Partner? When a couple gets caught in a negative cycle of interaction, several things can happen....
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
- Sep 12, 2022
- 2 min
Is This a Good Reason for Couples Therapy?
Couples counseling is hard work. Maybe that is why less than 5% of divorcing couples come to therapy for help. What most don’t realize is...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
- Sep 8, 2022
- 3 min
If You Could (Only) See the Real Me: Validation in Couple Relationships
Without validation, communication breaks down and leads to power struggles about whose version of reality will win out. Marie sat with...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
- Aug 24, 2022
- 2 min
How to Communicate When You See Things Differently
The number one reason couples come to therapy is because of “communication issues.” Why do I put this in quotes? Because when couples...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
- Aug 15, 2022
- 3 min
Emotional Safety for Couples
In relationships, there is often an unconscious goal of maximizing safety rather than just diminishing anxiety. Joseph Sandler was a...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
- Aug 10, 2022
- 6 min
This Equation Will Save Your Relationship
Many years ago, my wife and I, and some other family members were driving to New Mexico - a favorite vacation spot frequented by many...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
- Jul 29, 2022
- 4 min
Care to Dance? I’ll take blame; you take attack. Conflict in Couples
All couples have arguments, and contrary to popular belief, arguments with your spouse or partner are healthy. They help decide the...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
- May 5, 2022
- 5 min
Why Everything You Think About Conflict with Your Partner Is Wrong
The rupture/repair cycle and why to embrace it Tanya felt exhausted. She laid her head back on her pillow and exclaimed, “We are not...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
- Nov 9, 2021
- 1 min
Healthy Couples Do These FOUR Things
What do healthy couples do that make them successful? Tom Philp, LPC & CEO, shares 4 secrets to success in your relationship with your...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
- Sep 2, 2021
- 3 min
Do the Hard Stuff: Perseverance
Tom Philp, LPC & CEO, shares his story of hiking 50 miles in 9 days in New Mexico and explains how perseverance can help achieve success...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
- Jul 28, 2021
- 2 min
Getting Past the Affair: The 3 Phases of Recovery
Are you (or someone you know) going through the heartache of an affair? There is hope for you and your partner. In this video, Tom Philp,...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
- Jul 8, 2021
- 3 min
Do We Really Need Therapy if We're Getting a Divorce??
Many of the couples we meet desire to make things work, to see their relationship restored. But some couples are getting a divorce and...
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Tom Philp, LPC, CEO
- Jun 28, 2021
- 3 min
The Stories We Tell Ourselves
Why do we react so quickly when talking with our partner/spouse? It's the story we're telling ourselves. Tom Philp, LPC & CEO, explains...
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