Does it feel like you struggle to be emotionally secure in your relationship? Are there times when anxiety grips you and you are overcome...

Relationships have a tremendous capacity to heal. They also have a tremendous capacity to hurt. The old adage, “Hurt people hurt people,”...

Emotion is one of the least understood, and most complex of the human systems. It wasn’t until the 1990's that technology allowed us to...

Why Am I Emotionally Reactive to my Partner? When a couple gets caught in a negative cycle of interaction, several things can happen....

Couples counseling is hard work. Maybe that is why less than 5% of divorcing couples come to therapy  for help. What most don’t realize...

Without validation, communication breaks down and leads to power struggles about whose version of reality will win out. Marie sat with...

The number one reason couples come to therapy is because of “communication issues.” Why do I put this in quotes? Because when couples...

In relationships, there is often an unconscious goal of maximizing safety rather than just diminishing anxiety. Joseph Sandler was a...

Many years ago, my wife and I, and some other family members were driving to New Mexico - a favorite vacation spot frequented by many...

All couples have arguments, and contrary to popular belief, arguments with your spouse or partner are healthy. They help decide the...

The rupture/repair cycle and why to embrace it Tanya felt exhausted. She laid her head back on her pillow and exclaimed, “We are not...

What do healthy couples do that make them successful? Tom Philp, LPC & CEO, shares 4 secrets to success in your relationship with your...

Tom Philp, LPC & CEO, shares his story of hiking 50 miles in 9 days in New Mexico and explains how perseverance can help achieve success...

Are you (or someone you know) going through the heartache of an affair? There is hope for you and your partner. In this video, Tom Philp,...

Many of the couples we meet desire to make things work, to see their relationship restored. But some couples are getting a divorce and...

Why do we react so quickly when talking with our partner/spouse? It's the story we're telling ourselves. Tom Philp, LPC & CEO, explains...

What is "attachment" in relationships? Tom Philp, LPC, explains different types of attachment and why it's important to understand...

Experiencing grief as a couple can be challenging. Tom Philp, LPC & CEO, provides some insights on navigating through this process...

Can we really get our partners to read our minds? Tom discusses good communication, healthy perspectives and a Frasier comedy sketch in...

Often, the way we communicate as couples is much like music. Tom Philp, LPC & CEO of Stonebridge Couples, shares more about this very...